random thoughts about leaving

In the quiet hours of twilight's embrace,

A tale unfolds of parting ways, a chase,

Where footsteps fade and memories burn,

Leaving behind a heart that yearns.

Oh, the bittersweet sorrow of farewells,

As we wander through life's intricate spells,

In the depths of souls, a longing stirs,

For the ones we leave, the ones we were.

With heavy steps, we venture afar,

Seeking solace from a distant star,

Leaving behind what once was dear,

In pursuit of dreams, we hold so near.

A chapter ends, a new one begins,

As the road ahead gleams and beckons,

Yet a whisper lingers, a haunting plea,

Will we ever return, will we ever be free?

Oh, the echoes of laughter, the tears we shed,

As we bid adieu to the life we led,

For in leaving, we find a piece of our soul,

A chance to grow, to become whole.

But as we tread on unfamiliar ground,

A yearning for home is forever found,

The places we've left, the faces we've known,

Forever etched in the depths of our own.

The winds may carry us far and wide,

Yet the heart's compass will never subside,

For in every step, in every turn,

The longing to return, forever burns.

So, let us embrace the journey we take,

With open hearts, and promises we make,

For though we leave, we'll never forget,

The moments we shared, the love we met.

And though we may never return again,

In our hearts, the memories remain,

For leaving is but a part of life's grand dance,

A chance to grow, to take a chance.

So, let us cherish the moments we share,

For in leaving, we find the strength to dare,

To explore, to discover, to forever yearn,

In the hope that one day, we may return.

Protest Your Sanctuary

This piece isn't about blame shifting/rotating, projecting but rather a honest attempt in helping you protect your sanctuary brother or sister be awake and protect your sanctuary.

A sanctuary is a place of safety, refuge or protection for the purpose of this piece , a sanctuary may be divided into these four categories.

1. Physical

2. Mentally

3. Spiritually

4. Emotionally

Your Mental health, Personal space ,and Circle of friends are all part of your sanctuary.

•The kind of people you surround yourself with

•The kind of activities you engage in for fun

•The kind of activities you engage in for self development

•The kind of music you listen to

Please understand that we are personally responsible for who we become at the end of the day. 

Protecting your sanctuary,you won't achieve certain things if you are too emotionally invested in people who do not add any positive in your life.

Accommodating such people in your life is a recipe for disaster.

Such people are nothing but, dead weight.

Not that they are useless entirely it's just that they are not useful to you and your earthly assigned mission. Dead weight 💪🏋️may help you if you are a body doing bench presses otherwise it slows you down or prevent you from getting ahead....cut it✂️

Stay away from toxic people in life who guilt trip you for what you have managed to achieve on your own and tell you that you should be thankful because you have this and that stop looking for more because there are people less privileged than you whereas you earned your achievement's purely on basis of;

• Personal Drive
• Attitude
• Self Discipline
• Sacrifices
• Determination 
• Ambition
• Endurance

Toxic people tie a noose around their ignorance, arrogance and pride just to sit comfortably in their comfort zone playing the victim as they grow and go through life without being responsible for anything except blaming those who put work in.

I am an African Child and that's without a single shade of doubt but I can't relate with most people my generation based on what I have wrote.

I feel that as an African we still have a long way to go mentally more than physically, 

we need to fetch our lives from deep within ourselves first and foremost.

There are negative things in the past that were done to our forefathers that hindered our growth, let's break the cycle.

History cannot be changed but we can't trade the future for Social gatherings, fun and adding to population whereas we have major shortages elsewhere.

It is within us to change the status quo, it is within us to put our best foot forward in unity and find a way to translate to the world and each other that greatness is our fate.

If this is mutual , it is crucial for you to protect your sanctuary and stay away from anyone who has not made means to achieve anything in the past 12 months and isn't making any moves towards progress.

Securing our future is the only gospel we should be preaching, prioritizing and practicing properly.

We are emphatic as humans meaning we have the capability to sensing the emotions of others. 

You can't walk into a house full of people mourning 😭😢 and maintain a smile☺️ throughout whether you are happy or not that's just the way it goes.

Energy is like temperature Fam, even ice ❄️ doesn't stay long without changing form in a hot oven 🔥.

Protect your sanctuary, your work ethic, your consistency. 

Rub shoulders with people whom are more knowledgeable than you , if they aren't they better be open minded and willing to grow otherwise they will change you instead.

It may seem as if you are thinking highly of yourself but if that's the only option you are left with, make it... protect your sanctuary.

Protect your sanctuary everyone have an idea of what they must have in order for them to feel complete and that includes their dreams but very few are willing to pay the price.

If success was a 300+ pages book most people would simply skim through the pages staring at the pictures... protect your sanctuary.

Our generation have retired from thinking, original ideas are rare and i can tell from stolen posts flooding your FB friends timeline .

Protect your sanctuary.

@Mohlalefi_SA

4/25/2020

I KNEW A GIRL ONCE

I knew a girl once who lived in a house made of skin,With the spine of time stretched through it.

The slightest wind would make it spin,It trapped a symphony of voices.

An escalating cacophony of whirlwinds

Each see one a pinpoint in time

An etched groove in her mind

But she refused to unravel

Terrified of what she might find,

Instead she spent her days living from the outside in

She wore badges of silence

And learned to bend with most winds

And when the horns would blow

She'd let their fury reign from within.

Protected by falsehoods and pride

A thick societal skin,

But to the world she glowed

Like the moon and sun's origins

Wrapped up in someone else's skin.

That's when the whispers begin,

That she was coloured by incest.

Coloured by date rape,

Coloured by pretense,

False representations,

False mandates.

Open your eyes,

Realize when your true voice calls,

That no lies will hold it within,

Every day of your life a new truth you will write,

But with your eyes closed you will spin.

Open your eyes,

Realize when your true voice calls,

That no lies will hold it within,

Every day of your life a new truth you will write.

But with your eyes closed you will spin

Open your eyes

Realize when your true voice calls

That no lies will hold it within

Every day of your life a new truth you will write

But with your eyes closed you will spin

Credit Lebogang Mashile

Now Is The Time

now is the time

In a few years from now, the main  difference between us will be how we spent our time as youth before we speak of success. Our most valuable asset is not that expensive watch , but time itself.

We are all allocated the same 24 hours and how we spend it is what makes us differ at the end of the day. 
You can choose to sleep after watching your favorite TV program  while other kids are burning midnight oil studying or partying  until the early hours of the morning.. 

It is all up to you just beware of what you are spending your time in or on, because it is your future investment, your time is the only thing you'll be left with when  everything else is over...will it be time spent in regret or rejoice ? You get to decide it now.

At times as Africans we think we are not prospering because of traditional reasons and witch craft but what we forget is that we invest our time daily and if we invest in wrong things we will simply reap what we invested.

So from me to you remember this.

• You have the power to make decisions and your decisions have the power to make you. 

• Time is a luxury and Timing is everything. 

• Everything is possible but not everything is profitable.  

I'm not so sorry

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It has been brought to my attention that I have a habit of rubbing my success on others with a social standard lower than mine, well you may be wondering since when   do I pay mind to gossip , rumors or anything spoken behind my back ; those are signs of weakness from deep within.

Where I'm going with this is further back ; that is contrary to popular belief. Like what do you know about living in a one roomed home packed like sardines with both siblings and parents? Need i mention the generational gaps and the difficulties one would face just to take a bath ?

with parents unemployed and it seemed normal cause every single house hold have more unemployed people than the employed, neighbors frown and squirm in your presence because they expect you to beg or borrow something, its obvious they aren't welcome to that no more but you have to stick to the mandate.

I went through school with no lunch box money, full uniform or sufficient stationery i went through it all.While other kids were worried about DJ Careless's big bash... i had to learn how to fund-raise to support myself , seeing that the only income we have is my brother and mom's SASSA i had to sell Snacks and Sweets from primary to high school that went as far as contributing to the costs of my matric dance.

I developed foolish pride, i don't like people feeling sorry for me since then.
Don't help me with anything if you are going to tell everyone about it.
I care a lot about who gets to see me in certain emotional state, i don't like to react at all.
I have grown stoic .

As for dreams or thoughts of the future i had none except for going to bed with a full stomach and waking up with breakfast instead of leftovers, if there's anything i learned and perfected it has to be survival and how to stay driven.

Post high school life entails so many expectations and disappointments from oneself and the family, i went through that too.

Getting education and skills enough to get myself economically active was hard also but i had to soldier on, I remember 1 April 2015 I was too anxious and I experienced heart palpitations and thought its a heart-attack I wasn't ready to die for i knew my existences had a far lesser impact at the time.

I will not forget the days when i would leave home with an empty stomach to go volunteer my time and skills in an NPO just to help others grasp content, little did i know i will end up as a staff member @ TPY.

My grind  haven't been easy but they believed in me, identified me and invested in me and i am a product of it.

I can only imagine how hard it is for my friend Shabba to turn of his sound system for me to come and study at his place since mine is filled to the rafters (talk about being told what to do in your private space).

I left church for i saw that the time i wasted there wasn't appreciated,reciprocated or beneficial instead all its motives were financially driven to a point that if you are gullible ,less discerning and questioning you'd take offense.

I guess what i am trying to say is excuse me if i seem to be bragging about little success, it is called success because it did not come easy.

I was born with no master plan but i just happened to articulate my way to the future.

There is no success without sacrifices and i sacrificed a lot. I lost someone i thought i'd grow old with, I lost Pro Kid and my sanity.

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WHAT DO YOU HOLD FOR THE FUTURE

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The following Blogpost is a reflection of what I have been observing and as such I do not compel anyone to find sense in it, however I ask you to read diligently so you can quote me properly so.....enjoy!

I've heard it said more than once that “we shall see what the future holds for us ", I’m sitting on a lonely corner analysing the trends and listening if not watching the current affairs. In the midst of #FeesMustFall #Poverty and #Unemployment Crime becomes a factor in this equation but hold up wait...Those are symptoms of a problem we think we are experiencing.

We as a nation have been challenged to act within our capacity to deal with the problems we have for the good of this country, and of course our future.

"It is counter-intuitive to ask  What do we hold for the future than it is to say "what does the future hold for us". 

It is a no brainier that the future belongs to us but what efforts are we putting in place to shape the quality of the lives we desire to live in future?

Is it a role we can expect answers for from our politicians, we need to take a stance as one and see to it that we do the little we can to improve ourselves? It is no doubt our country is in a undesirable condition as of yet, I am from a underprivileged background and I won't blame it on my adversity for the adverse effects in my life but rather our education system, I would like to think that I speak for masses when I say it is poor and further more I will take time to moralize you a picture.

Compared to our neighboring countries that are struggling economically we have poor grades and our education is irrelevant for most, after learning how to read and write some of the things that formed part of the curriculum were not compulsory for all....can I please set the tone for this one, let me start by outlining the fact that not everyone is going to be successful through academic skills as we are all given and gifted uniquely.

With all that said I would strongly suggest/propose that we adopt the same model in place for Zimbabweans and our neighbouring countries, Zimbabwe will be the centre of my argument for obvious reasons. Our country is populated by people from all walks of life and their standards of living are far better than our and as such that simply implies that there is something they are doing different compared to us, the education system I have touched based about on the previous paragraph is integrated with technical skills that enables the people of the country to be able to fend for themselves and also be spoilt to choice where choice is limited. 

Possessing technical skills maybe a thumbs down for social circles but a serious thumbs up for ones finances, I can go in detail about why my proposal is worth consideration and give you different good elements we can copy from our diverse African fellows brethren.

What more do you see that can improve us as a black nation not as south Africans but as African’s for now it is more of a wish than it is a reality but as an African you can hence the last 3 letters of the word African reinforce that you "CAN"

 #Afri-CAN

Being a Brother

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Being a brother is not an easy job, it is a very tiring role there is in the family regardless of whether you are the oldest or the youngest. I for one is a brother to five fellow siblings, and yes I am the fifth of the six surviving kids of his Majesty Sir Thulani E. Majara and Her Highness Smangele E. Majara's household.

As a brother you are born a baby boy

with unique Personality, Pure instincts to Protect , Provide and at Times be the Professor for your siblings.

All that is achieved after a process of aggressive self-assurance and it makes you a person given to making bold decisions for you and your families survival, every step in the journey of brotherhood and decisions made technically shapes you to be the man you are soon to be.

we are born boys life turns us into man Isn't ironic that Life is like an Initiation school proclaims such benefits? Anyways that's besides what I want to bring to your attention, moving right along.

The qualities is mentioned earlier on are those I feel are very important but they are nothing if you don't know when to improvise, there are many child headed families out here and some have a brother co-parenting their own siblings.

I for one was raised in a broken family, I guess its only fit for me to say I am talking from experience when I am defining a brother. I have a Brother Name Sbongile , she had to grow up on demand and the following qualities are compiled retrospectively of the acts she engaged in.

• Personality 

he is meek,assertive and warm hearted with a pinch of savage.(I guess its a standard procedure for a Majara )

• Protect 

yes being a brother entails that Pure instincts and necessary jealousy to protect yourself, family from any kid of harm and he grew up a specialist in that task. I was never bullied or in need from way back when he was I highschool.

• Provide

by provide I mean everything within his means to see the family through hurdles in life, most of the people who grew up under similar circumstances are serving sentences as a result of various offences across the entire spectrum of criminal activities but not him.

• Professor

He assumed the role of co-parent,assisted us academically ,mentored me. He seems o have always had a fountain of wisdom that he occasionally tapped into to give sound advice or help with academics stuff and still remain top of his class till this day.

So I must clear this one for all, being a brother isn't always biological, it can also be based of genuine brotherly love,care and respect.

Rest in peace to PRO a fellow brother I never met but touched me n inspired me through music.

The Fourth Industrial Revolution | Full Version (Subtitled)

KASI SENSEI (PROMO)

Do It Because You Can

Welcome to FBFDOINGTHEOINGS, In todays log i am sharing an extract from the below mentioned book  by
BY: DR M.TIBANE
[ADAPTED DO IT BECAUSE YOU CAN]
[BY: DR M TIBANE]

I found it very useful for self-help, i hope you also find it useful


CONVICTION IS LOOKING TO THE FUTURE FOR INSPIRATION


The words “I BELIEVE I WILL DO IT” (CONVICTION) mean that I believe in the future, in my destiny, in my vision.They mean that I believe that completing a journey is better than its beginning.
They mean I was born for something special that is why you have role models who are influential.

CONVICTION IS PREFERRING THE TRUTH OVER THE FACTS

The words "I believe I will do it" focus on the truth, it is interesting to note that there’s a difference between a FACT and the TRUTH.

FACT: the way things are 

TRUTH: the way things can be.

In life I strongly encourage people to choose not to be frustrated by facts but instead to be encouraged by the truth.What matters is not the way things are, but the way things can be.

Remember, BUTTERFLIES are not born butterflies….but they are born caterpillars.

When you see a caterpillar on the ground the FACT is you are looking at a caterpillar.
The TRUTH is you are looking at a potential butterfly.

Even though butterflies are born caterpillars, they are born to become butterflies.
It may be a fact that you are born poor but the truth is you are born to become prosperous.


CONVICTION GIVES US THE REASON TO TRANSFORM

Conviction implies transformation
The bible tells us that a scholar named PAUL wrote in ROMANS12:2

It is in fact dangerous to conform content and form gives you conform, content with present form to be satisfied with your status quo to be satisfied with being a caterpillar.
Below is your new tool for saving yourself the headache associated with problem solving…it is called

PRACTICAL APPLICATION

1.RECOGNIZE
It is important to recognize or acknowledge the need to change your convictions
-Write the acknowledgement down.


2. RESOLVE
Having recognized the need to change your convictions you need a resolution to actually change
-write the resolution down.


3. RETHINK
Rethinking means convincing yourself with reasons why you should change, you can tabulate lists of convictions then compare the two lists.

4. REJECT

Be brave and reject the old convictions in word and in deed
It may help you to write down words like “I REJECT THE BELIEF THAT I CANNOT….”

5. RESIST

Rejecting old beliefs does not mean that the battle has been won .the temptation to backslide is very common after rejection….soldier on
Anticipate the tendency and resist the temptation.

6. REPLACE
This is probably most important step in re-engineering your convictions the old and now forsaken beliefs need to be replaced with new ones.
If this does not take place you will experience a sense of emptiness…
A human being is a believer
We need to believe in something it will assist the process if you document your new beliefs.

7. RESOUND
This is an effective safety mechanism say the words to yourself.
Speak your new beliefs affirmatively say the words to yourself and the people you trust like family and mentors.

8. REWARD
It is important to celebrate your victories celebrate every positive change you make no matter how small it may be.

9. RELATE

It is important to choose your relationships carefully changing your belief system may require a change of company.

“If you walk with the wise you will be wise, if you walk with a company of fools you’ll be headed for destruction”

Associate yourself with those people who will assist you in upholding your new beliefs.

BELIEVEING is a spiritual phenomenon therefore, positive spiritual company is crucial, for successful re-engineering your convictions.

10 REVIEWS

A continual and responsible review of your convictions is important.

It will help you to grow and progress along your spiritual journey remember that the invisible world (accessed through beliefs) controls the visible world (accessed through knowledge and actions)

Always go an extra mile doing only what is required just isn’t enough to get by it is important to note that it won’t assist you to get ahead opportunity follows those who work the extra mile.

USE IT OR LOSE IT, THAT’S THE SPIRIT.


FIGHT FAILURE

One of the great enemies of success is the fear of failure although fear feels real at a time, there is something else that is actually real and far greater than fear, it is faith.

Our faith is demonstrated by our courage which is the subject of this log.


• What if I don’t succeed?

• What if I lose money?

• What will people say, they’ve said a lot of negative things?

WHAT HELPS IS TO ASK YOURSELF COURAGEOUS QUESTIONS

• What if I succeed?

• What if you finally fulfill your purpose in life?

I FEEL IT IS BETTER TO DIE WHILE YOU ARE ON YOUR PATH TO DESTINY THAN TO LIVE AS YOU DO…WHICH IS THE SAME AS BEFORE.

“IT TAKES COURAGE TO DO THAT”


I BELIEVE I CAN DO IT

This will take you to a higher level conviction means believing in possibilities, but courage is the back bone required to stand up for your convictions.

Conviction is your absolute belief in the future sometimes the journey to the future seems endless you may feel you may not arrive and you get so discouraged.

What you need is: COURAGE

EXAMPLES OF COURAGE

• TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AND STOP BLAME STORMING.

• BE IMPERFECT AND NEVER TRY PERFECTION.

• SAY NO AND MEAN IT.

• EXPERIENCE INTIMATE AND LOVING RELATIONSHIPS.

• STAND UP FOR YOUR BELIEFS.


SIGNS OF DISCOURAGEMENT IN A PERSON ARE

• FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY

• GIVING UP AND NOT TRYING

• LACK OF PATIENCE AND SELF CONFIDENCE

• FEELINGS OF UNWORTHINESS

• TENDENCY TO AVOID COMPETITION

LEADERSHIP

• Take responsibilities for your own work and the work of your team (be Assertive).

• Trust your own judgement.

• Become independent of external evaluations (be unique and bold)

• Openly receive honest feedback about job performance and your relationship with management.

• Avoid bad revenge.

• Try new things.

• Be open and honest about your feelings.

HOW TO ENCOURAGE YOURSELF

• BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, YOU ARE BEST WHEN YOU ARE YOURSELF. 

• DON’T PROVE ANYTHING TO ANYONE EXCEPT YOURSELF. 

• YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON WHO IS EXACTLY LIKE YOU,
NOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT USE THAT TO YOUR BEST ADVANTAGE. 

• FOR A WHILE YOU MAY HAVE FELT LIKE A WORM (CATERPILLAR) REMEMBER THAT ALL BUTTERFLIES WERE BORN WORMS, FOCUS ON THE FUTURE. 

• FAIL, DO NOT QUIT FAILURE IS AN EGG THAT YOU BREAK TO MAKE THE OMELETTE OF SUCCESS. 

• DISABILITY IS NOT INABILITY, WE WERE MEANT TO OVERCOME. 

• WE ARE MADE OF THE RIGHT MATERIAL WE ARE DESIGNED, ENGINEERED AND BORN FOR ACHIEVEMENT. 

• IF YOU STUMBLE AND FALL THAT IS PROOF ENOUGH THAT YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING, ONLY WORMS ARE EXEMPT FROM FALLING. 

• Develop this attitude; its good but i can actually do better. 

• Maintain the push attitude. 

• Persist Until Something Happens. 

• Focus on what you can do to improve what you have. 

• Encourage others; the more you encourage the weak the stronger you become.

I hope you found something interesting enough to apply in your life and improve it for the better, i am open to feedback,opinion even a follow on social platforms in case you want to get to know FiFi

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men and valentines day

Do any man enjoy examinations?

As scholars we spend hours of study time burning the midnight oil in sophisticated silence of the night that is not so sinister to us (at least now more than ever) until the Early hours of the morning…oh my word the preparation is very unrelenting!

The anxiety can be so crippling, in learning institutions , the anticipation for those dreadful weeks in October and November starts as early as August. Facilitators ,Lectures, Professors and Tutors  stoke and embed distress by painting horrific images of the situation to be faced shortly. I for one have never come across anyone who is looking forward to being tested, I surely never enjoyed it not because I am afraid of getting educated but, the fear of failing. To be honest i am terrified of trying and not succeeding.

What is Valentine’s Day for men, if not another examination? A day meant to celebrate love have decayed into a commercialized mess because we’re told that we have to buy things to show how much we love our partners-The more expensive, the better. Because of the general concept of relationships, “it is the man who must make a plan “. It is expected of the dude to buy some kind of gesture to signify his love.

The worst thing about Valentine’s Day is the fact that it is embedded into the calendar and because the women knows it’s coming, the man cannot escape it. Because of the expectation and the understandable desire on the behalf of the man to make his woman happy, there’s tons of pressure to be creative and genuine. (If he is my kinda dude) he has to prepare, he has to deliver, the price for failing is bitter.

Ladies do you forgive your man if he somehow trip on V-day?... See what I mean? In his head, he is once more anxiously trying to cram the equations and formulas into his head for the statistics exam he has to face. Hold up… this is not to say that man are not romantic or do not want to be, but the absolute nature of V-day is very limiting. Not all chaps think that the best way to show their affection is a candlelit dinner and diamond rings or all these other cliché cards, glasses and teddy bear and roses…NO!

We are different and every relationship has its own unique traits. My significant other and I often go and hang out in parks or botanical gardens for picnics and get to observe nature,grab a bite and sip some while having face time (with the phone on flight mode of course ) . other couples go to art galleries, clubs or bungee jumping together. For many men, 14 February feels distressingly unspontaneous because they do things we wouldn’t do. I do not doubt there is also pressure from the women’s side to play along, to say “my bae did not do anything for V-day” would surely prompt a response full of sympathy.

It would help if V-day was treated just like a birthday, you see one isn’t expected to repeat the same thing every B-day over and over again. When thinking of buying a present, we imagine the recipient and try buy something meaningful. The best birthday gifts are somewhat personal and show that people care. The same thing cannot be said for yet another teddy with a heart and a rose.